Good deal. It's a slow process to make the changes to be permanent. The good news is that you are recognizing traits you don't like and addressing them quickly.

Have you read the Five Love Languages? Maybe while working on yourself, you can interact with your W using her love language.

Me: 43
W: 37
Together: 18
M: 15
D: 8 yrs old
ILYBNILWY: March 2011
She Filed for D: August 2011
She moved out: Sept 1, 2011
Reconciled: May 2012
Divorce Case dropped: July 2012