Hey Lou my exw is a perfectionists. We had serious issues around that. For example when we painted our home she always chose the colors, even though I did the painting she never asked for my input. It would take her months to decide on a color, and complain that I had not painted when she never bought the paint or allow me to get it myself. Really frustrating. Another example, when we bought the home I have now 11 years ago we decided to buy Arbovites trees to plant in the back yard. I remember we had bought 6 at 1st. It was a Sunday afternoon and I needed to be in bed and get to work the next day. She asked me to place them were we would plant them. I knew it would take for ever and I wanted to get them into the ground. It was a hot day.
Instead she went inside to get a ruler.... She measure them equal spacing. Me being the impatient person that I am wanted to drill the ruler into my veins
So we didn't communicate well and we didn't learn each others short comings. A perfectionist can be very controlling person in a R. It may be a good quality to have in ones profession but it kills a R.
So pay attention to what you say, do, and any other subliminal message.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
