You are Not a loser! You know what H is losing out on by not ending the A w/OW. Time to change the way you view yourself in this situation. Time to put as much energy into loving yourself as you do with worrying about H and OW. Time to turn the focus point on yourself. GAL can be hard sometimes, but you can do it. Remember to act as if and soon it will come natural. You are not a doormat to be trampled upon.