Was I wrong to sit in the lot for 30 mins shooting the breeze with her? How do I work my strategy when she is so caught up with this OM and believes she is madly deeply passionately in love with him. Also when he keeps coaching her. She said she told him what the coach said "It is her and my Divorce and our marriage and he needs to stay out and respect that, he gets all upset, they argue he cries she consoles him all is good with my wife and Mr. Israeli Charlatan"
So here is what happened:
They actually sat us in two different areas. She leaned over and was like why did they sit us separately and I just looked back at her.
We went into the room and it was us the two Attorneys and the Coach.
It took all my strength to not break down I could feel the panic. I don't think it was grief but more not wanting to be there. Plus she did her hair the way POS likes it and was wearing a necklace that I think he bought her..Rub it in...
The coaches took over.
I can't go into a lot, but we are going to have to do in house separation for a limited time until they work out all the finances. Our stuff is so intertwined that it will take a while to unwind it.
We basically were setting ground rules and she agreed to NC with OM when she is in the house.
Of course when we left she right away told me that he this and he that. I said I don't want to know about you and him.
Part of the discussion they asked what is hurting me and Of Course I slipped and said my legally married wife is "sleeping" with another man. She retorted she did not want to go there and it would not have happened if I did not chase her off back in February. I said I did not believe that and lets drop it.
We all left together and she and I were discussing some of the rules of engagement for her return.(Per advisement)
She keeps crying. Claims its because she is upset that I seem sad. I said well who made me sad, and I am not sad I am ready to move on. Lets just get S15 past this for everyone's sake,
Of course her OM is upset by the entire thing and she says she did not communicate with me all weekend because he won't let her. (does not matter I would not have got back to her.)
She tried to kiss me goodbye and I just walked away. I could hear her sobbing as I left.
She is returning to the house on April 18.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
