I really really feel that if she's back in the home and I try and 180 her and come here for advice, I may turn things around.
There are many cases here where their spouses didnt left the house snd still got D. Also, no matter how much you think about it you dont know the future....unless I am missing something from you ...
I also started thinking about the way she operates,
????? Your W its a human being and you can not figure it out nothing about here unless she tells you...
This just hit me like a ton of bricks
The only way to experience a big change its after having touch bottom in the deepest way ever...
I realize that my STBXW has been thinking about leaving for years. She has waited and waited probably trying to hold out until S15 graduate high school.
You still thinking about why she did this and that....focus on yourself
Then this charlatan came around. And guess what she is not as in love,with him as he is her. That why his texts are all mushy and hers are,like love,you, see you...bye...etc.
First and this is an advice that will help you, dont call him names, by doing that you are just growing resentments, your W its a grown up person and she wasnt " possesed by a guy" to be with ghat guy, she choosed him. What she wants,is the life he is offering her,of living here and Israel, as well as freedom from responsibilities.
I kept thinking she was in love with the life and thinking it was him... All you its focussing in being a victim and its fine, she is in another R what are you gonna do now? What can you do about it? What can you do different?
We have all been fooled by her even the MC and Collaborative coach...
I feel like She,used me for 30+"years to give her two boys a nice home etc! when she felt she was finished with that she was looking for her freedom, and this poor sucker pos fell right into her trap.
That maybe true or not, work on yourself, that way you will get those responses, start following the sandi37 rules and I will suggest you to go to a therapist and talk about your anger, and find ways of refocussing those violent feelings that you have..
OMFG. I CAN't BELIEVE THIS! I finally got her number....
??? Your thoughs will make you think everything they want, if you follow them you might ended very well hurt...
IMHO you are not looking to save your M, you are looking to restore your EGO because your EGO feels humilliated by them having an affair.
In that sentence its one of the things you can start working on, your EGO, trust me you have now to take care of yourself and detach from her.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
