Hi LN,
I'm so sorry you are here.
Mine is the same age as yours, he BD'd only THREE months ago and divorce is final already. He wasted zero time. You're so not alone. I have not found anyone in real life that seems to understand MLC but on these boards, there's a LOT of us LBSers. You sound like you're doing great, I mean under these circumstances. You did good by reading up on it and GAL. That divorcecare group you were in, I'm doing that now and it has helped me tremendously with rebuilding my own life. The best thing you can do is detach, keep reading and GAL. It can take years for these things to end and sometimes they don't. I'm hoping mine comes out of the fog but I realize it's years we're talking here. Hang in there, keep posting.


Me - 42
exH - 56
Married 10.5 years
Together 17
bomb dropped 1/6/14
signed papers 2/4/14
H moved out 2/22/14
D final 4/4/14
Dropped the rope 5/17/14
2 cats, 2 dogs