Oh Boy, if he is anything like me, you don't want to persue at that specific time. I hold to the saying 'beware the wrath of a patient man'. I withdraw because I have a vicious, tactless side that comes to the surface if I am emotionally hurt or made angry. I've known this since junior high school. I have to get away to 'control the demons' and allow me a chance to think things through. I obviously don't want to hurt my wife so a few moments to a few hours is something that I need away from her.
I would not say that it is a 'want' to be away from her, but I feel a necessity to keep the peace. Maybe that's why I'm on this board and she is a few hundred miles away at her mom's with the kids.....
Bottom line, it's probably just a communication issue. What I want is for the tone of the conversation to remain civil so that I can control myself and listen. What I need is closeness and a reassurance that she is mad at the situation and not always with me.
