Just thinking. I could say this and have no problem with what W says or does.
My W says she feels uncomfortable around me and by me being in the house it is making her life hell. Do I tell her that she has every right to move out?
When she comes back with " have no place to go" which I know she does.
Do I bring up the fact that she can't afford to pay half the house expenses then why not just move out to where she could stay for free and have no expenses. Her Moms or Grandma's is where she could go.
Will this be taken by her and others that I am punishing her?
My intent is not to punish her but not rescue her any more than I already have during this process. She has made it clear that she still want to proceed with the D and I made it clear That I understand and respect her feelings but don't share her same thoughts.
I did not tell her that I was not going to help her in filing, should I have?
I don't think I should have being that it is implied by my not sharing the same feelings on D as her that I am not going help her in some ways but I will when asked provide answers that she might ask of me when I have fully thought them out and if it is in my best interest.
My W is a WAW and although I have done a decent job at DBing and she acknowledges changes she sees and honestly likes them but still cant bring herself to choose to love me again because she allowed me to mentally abuse her and for that she is beating herself up.
If she wants to walk away she should walk away. I probably have screwed up by not being more firm earlier in the process but now it doesn't matter because my approach has not worked so I must think of another.
I know that some people will think I am being an A-hole and I cant help that.
Maybe there is a different way to convey my feelings than how I explained above Any other suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
THe one thing is I honestly do love my W and I want it work out. I just want her to face the consequences of being a WAW
Am I going about this wrong at this point?
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
