Need help saving my family - part 10

[Barrybran]

I just checked the dates again. If your wife has plans already for Easter it won't matter what you say you have planned, she won't go for it. She seems very specific about those dates. I don't know what the others think but maybe word your email along the lines of "I'd like to spend" rather than "my plan is" (she doesn't care about your plans, especially if they interfere with hers) and firmly (but nicely) stating how much time you'd like to spend with them. I agree with unbidden that you can say "fair's fair" to her about Christmas/Easter but Easter is only two weeks away so she may have plans already.

It may result in your kids spending Easter with your wife but the kids spending that minimum time with you at some other point in the holidays. Is that OK with you or are you adamant about the kids being with you for Easter? Keep in mind that you will occasionally spend holidays and birthdays with the kids on dates around the exact time but you will celebrate them regardless.