Well, H wants 'to meet' this Wednesday evening. I believe he will finally be taking some concrete steps toward divorce. When I spoke to a DB coach a couple of months ago, I was advised to just say 'I'm sorry you feel that way. I still don't think divorce is the answer, but I respect your decision.' So I guess that's all I have left at this point.

I met with an attorney today for the first time, and I feel much better, like I can take whatever comes my way now. After 9 months of this craziness, I was starting to doubt my sanity, but the attorney has heard it all, and he had my husband pegged the minute I started describing the situation. He probably could have finished the story for me. So, now I wait til Wednesday evening. Let's see if he decides to tell me -- for about the 4th time now -- that it's over. Any words of advice? Anyone? Bueller? Love this forum. It truly is so helpful, even if I'm just reading everyone else's stories...


Me 53, XH 57
M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids
BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15