I suppose it will take me a few days to come to terms with things. I know that I feel better in terms of having made some decisions and that I definitely had control over the conversation. I also said that she cannot come to my counsellor and she needs to arrange her own. This annoyed her as she said she got a lot from him but she accepted my position and is going to sort her own counselling out. I am determined to try and put her out if my head now as its the only way I will get through this.