Ok so we had our meeting today and it went as follows. I waited for her to start but it was obvious she wanted me to speak so I explained that I was no longer going to invest myself emotionally in her or what she does. I said that she can do what she likes with her life but asked that she do nothing that might adversely affect the boys. She agreed competely with that but I explained that messing around with maried men could create a chaotic situation which may well impact them. She stated clearly that she was not involved with him and assured me it had been dealt with. I know not to believe anything she says but she did seem genuine regarding this. I told her it was impossible for her to go on holiday with us and that I would be taking the boys on my own, she agreed that it would be difficult under the circumstances. I also asked that she agree that I am now the main carer for the boys and that she fully respect my position in regards to it. She agreed to that also but asked to continue to visit them as she does and have them alternate Saturdays as normal which I agreed to. It might be a tad awkward as I will be there some of the time but we will see what happens. I then got up to leave and as I di said ' have a nice life and take care' she said 'please don't put it like we will see eachother a lot' I said, ' yes but this is me signing out' and I left. She did seem upset about that. I suppose I am still in LRT mode but I felt I had to lay a marker down to gain some ground back in all of this as she has constantly called the shots. I have no idea what the future holds now but I know I do have to completely let go and GAL and who knows?
