Need help saving my family - part 10

[melissag]

Thanks, Wonka! I am humbled.

Scorp, certainly don't expect her to be reasonable, but at least give her a chance. Let us know how it goes!

[ye21]

Thanks for depositing the money. There was a problem with the email address you were sending to. Can you send everything to my work email address for now?

I would not explain her this, just give her the new emakl and thats all, if she wants to know what happens she will ask, thats a rule that I had learned the harsh way

[Wonka]

Ye,

There are no hard, fast rules in DBing that has to fit every sitch. It is not one size fits all. One needs to be flexible depending on the situation and circumstances at hand. In this, it makes sense for Scorp to state very matter-of-factly that there was a problem with the email address since W brought it up. Nothing elaborate.

[ye21]

Oh ok, thank you Wonka

[Scorp7]

Just got back from a long hike out in the field behind the house. Beautiful spring day here.

I was thinking, my family is having a big family gathering for Easter on Saturday April 19th. There will be about 20 or so of us there and the kids will do an easter egg hunt. Should I mention that in my email to my W so that she understands there is a big family day planned that the kids would love? Might help her to be a bit more reasonable, maybe?

[Barrybran]

I don't think so. It's your thing and your wife doesn't have to be involved. At some point, and your wife already does this, you will have your own plans and activities with your kids and you don't have to run it by your wife unless there's a safety or logistical issue involved that would concern her.

[Scorp7]

I wasn't thinking of it so much as running it by here. It was more letting her know that there is a big family day planned that the kids would love so hopefully she would consider that before she potentially balks at the kids being with me for Easter.

[unbidden]

Why don't you just tell her that she had them unilaterally at Christmas and you would like to have them at aEadter, that that's the only fair arrangement.

[Barrybran]

There's no doubt that you'll tell your wife occasionally what you have planned for the kids. She'll be interested in what the kids are doing and you'll be interested in sharing and she'll help get them excited. But to tell her so she'll let you have the kids? You know the answer to that by now.

[Scorp7]

Unbidden, I'd thought about doing that and then thought against it because it may lead to argument. It certainly makes sense that if she had the kids for Christmas day I'd have them for Easter.

Barry, I thought that if she knew the kids would get the chance to see all their cousins, something they get very excited for, that my W would be more understanding about why I want to have them home for Easter.