Exactly what I wanted you to see in fractal systems.....Change the initial behavior. Look at my tag line friend, why do you think I use it? To change your behavior takes 100% commitment to it in all your interactions.....If you do it for one person, well you are doing it for them and that won't stick. You commit to changing yourself and your behavior around all people....Then things will stick. Once things stick...Then you change your world.
Right it down...Use it....In all your interactions from the kids to co-workers....Be the change B.
Honestly B....From what I have read in your posting, you backslide into an old behavior for the past month or so. You did do some things well like detaching, etc. Those are good, but I very much get the feeling you backslide a lot into your usual communication patterns....and hence her evil response to it. You have to make that change....How I would like to see you world change is your son does something wrong, but he then can feel safe and secure coming to you and admitting and accepting responsibility for his behavior. He may be disciplined for it....but he feels safe and secure coming to you. Be the change.
Your wife is on the WAS diet....On a primitive level her body is changing to become more attractive...She is working out a lot....She is gal'ing........So I bet she looks fantastic. Maybe you should take a cue from her, just saying.
B.....Are you ready to do the hard work yet? You know what has to be done, but you have to start really doing it.
