Hope, I'm sorry you are still hurting so much. My BD was right around yours and I feel the pains too. I think carrying the weight of what to do to change your H decisions is only wearing you out and making life harder on you. Cause it defintely isn't going to change his mind on its own. Unless your H has some revelation while gone he will likely come home sticking to his plan and you would do better if you could just worry about you. Believe me I know how much easier that is to say than do. I'm preaching it and not doing the best job of this myself.
Even if your H does see it as wrong, it may not change his course. I know my W has admitted this is wrong but still will not change her mind. If you are looking for advice about the D, don't do the work if you don't want to. Just admit that its not what you want and can't see it through though you can't stop him. He may resent it, I know my W did but I believe that she understands on some level.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10
