Meeting for "THE TALK" tonight

[ladylu]

M, I am glad my circumstances never put me in the same place as you because I never moved out.
That said he won't either. You are right to worry about being prepared that the contact and the limbo will be uncomfortable. It will. It is still right to stand your ground and claim your home.
What helps day to day is to pretend we have been divorced for 20-30 years. I may think he's still an a$$ but like it ancient history and not worth me rising to the occasion.
Prepare for this though. For your son I think it's easier to adjust and think dad's just not here physically.
When dad is there physically but not emotionally and becomes unreliable that is a shock.
Hugs girl, I'm with you. I'm 43 and in limbo too. I don't want the record to show I was willing to give up.... But I can't die on my sword either. Life is out there. I'm awesome and so are my kids. We can't have Stockholm syndrome.
LL