Ye, Claire, Mel, Barry, thanks for your responses.

I am not acting out of emotion. I don't dislike my W let alone hate her. I don't like what she's done and is continuing to do that doesn't mean that I don't still love her or that I don't think she's still a good person. I'm sure she believes she's doing what is best for herself and our kids.

I can no longer make decisions about what my W may or may not do. This isn't about her any longer. It is about my kids and myself. That does not mean I don't love my W, I always have and I always will. I simply have to do what is right for my kids.

I have taken full responsibility for my actions and realize I was responsible for my half of the relationship. I made mistakes, I'm learning from them and determined not to repeat them. My main issue has always been insecurity, any other issues spawned from that. I am determined to improve myself for the sake of my kids as well as my own future.

As far as filling for D, I am not doing it to get a reaction from my W. In a strange way, it has little to do with her. I have to file for D to protect my rights as a father. My kids need me more than ever, I am going to do everything I have to in order to make sure my kids never have to be without their Dad. I do not want to hurt my W in any way, none of this is intended to do that. I'm doing what I feel has to be done at this point.


Me-40,W-37
D7, D5, S3
Separated Oct 3/2013
T 11 YRS
M 7 YRS