hope456--my story

[hope456]

I wanted to ask a couple of questions that were probably lost in some of my longer posts.

Does anyone think I'm not handling the bedtime phone calls correctly? It was the least pressuring solution I could think of that still considered D7's routine, but I'm open to advice.

This question was in reference to contacting my H while he is out of town (as he is right now). He has not been calling D7 each night as has been our practice for years if we were traveling. The last two nights, I've had D7 call him, but he hasn't answered either of her calls. Just trying to make sure there isn't a better way for me to handle.

Is it inappropriate for me to have a conversation with him about how important it is to be there when he is scheduled to be? He and I have had many conversations over the years about how much it hurt when our parents didn't show up for us. In my case, it was my mom and in his case, it was his dad. I'm sure he doesn't want the same thing for her.

This question is in reference to my H constantly changing the schedule with D7. It's not like he's asking to trade days; I would be ok with that. He's just saying, I have something to do X day, so can you keep D7? He keeps saying he wants her half the time, but his actions say otherwise.