Meeting for "THE TALK" tonight

[mleigh4]

Thank you Job, Your advice always means a lot to me

Hi ambivalent,

When everything blew up in August, I started catching my h telling lies, staying out late with friends I had never heard of, and my H became very cold and distant. My H decided it would be best to separate, to see if his feelings could come back for me. I told him if that is what he wanted, he should leave. He complained that his dads was too far to live at, wouldn't be able to pick up S after school like he does each day. H said apt would not work for him as he has work van and he wouldn't have anywhere to park 2 vehicles. He complained that I can't afford the mtg by myself and it wouldn't be fair for him to pay for 2 places. He insisted separation would be good for us, for him to have his space and we would still spend time together as family, and even do stuff alone. . (Which he decided he didn't want to do after I moved out). We decided a 6 month lease would be good, a 6 month break for us both. In my mind, this was completely temporary.

Me, being the loving and hopeful wife, agreed to this. At the time, my whole world was falling apart, my head was spinning, H and I were fighting like crazy, H was being a completely different person, so I just wanted to get the hell away from him.

I didn't know anything about MLC until reading Michele's book. If only I knew then what I know now, I would have handled it different. I regret leaving, however, I have used this time to read many self help books, I see a therapist, I have been put on an anti depressant , I am using a DB coach and really working on me. I believe I am strong enough and knowledgable enough now to handle him at home. I just worry about the fallout on my S. he is only 7, a very sweet and quiet child, and sensitive. I definitely plan on taking him to therapy to help us.