LFW has some great ideas - I really like the idea of switching off for S5's Weds night practices, and turning Saturdays into family days instead of Sundays. I also am not a fan of H's visits at your house. He is still living with his parents, right? Can't he bring them there to hang out with them?
I thought of you today when I was at my court mandated parenting class. It was said that kids under about 2.5 should not have overnights with the non-residential parent. (Lots of time during the day and evening is great, of course.) I know your S1 doesn't have that now, just thought it was an interesting tidbit.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14