exactly stomping on my heart every day.. I have the same questions.. How can he think like that feel like that..look at me and lie describe how I am feeling as "probably not well!"
I have figured the alternative is a realization that he is WRONG,SLIMEY all those things he thought about other men..so that does not sit well so better to create a lie and believe it than destroy his self concept..
and we will not change that..in them they have to see that themselves..and that is going to hurt.. I am with you on the thoughts always appearing..even teaching 20 6th graders about adjectival clauses the sadness and loss would suddenly hit. I found what helps a bit is to say.. this is mind reading and keeping telling myself.. or this will not help.. sometimes it helps not always sometimes nothing helps..
