Meeting for "THE TALK" tonight

[mleigh4]

I am taking in all your advice, along with my therapist, friends and family. You all say the same thing - move home. Unfortunately, I allow my H to make me 2nd guess myself.

Thoughts going through my mind:

Move home:

feels like right thing to do.
s and I should be home.
H should leave if he needs space.
I pay less to live at home than in apt, assuming H puts in his fair share.
Will stop my anger and resentment that H is not having to make any changes when he is one having issues.
If H stays in home, will most likely be tense, stay out till all hours, lie constantly ( this is why I left in first place)
I hate my noisy neighbors above me
I work every day for my home, not to live in apt
If H stays, no more back and forth custody for S
Home with dog, my son's dog
I think I can GAL and move on better. Too much limbo wondering how long to stay in apt.
Would feel more settled at home

Stay in apt:

Less stress
H craziness not in my face
Nice place
S likes it here, has new BF right next door ( but they plan moving in Aug)
Moving home seems to have pushed H into starting D process
If I stayed, gave him more time, would he stop D process?
H says we will have to sell house, which would effect where my S goes to school.
Wouldn't put S up front and center in H crazy world and behavior
Living here has done nothing to help our marriage, it's worse

I don't know what I would do without this board. All the resources and reading everyone's stories and battles have helped me to stay sane. I truly know this is not about me, it's my H journey. Once I decide on this next step, I feel ready to move on. In my heart, I think I know the right choice if I could just stop letting H stir that up!