Spouse tried I didn't, now opposite

[MrBond]

The first thing YOU have to do is to READ DB, the book. That will give you the information that you need to learn about relationships and how to fix it. There is no "magic bullet".

If you don't mind me asking, what was your H's username? It would help if we knew where he was coming from so we know how to approach this situation. The more information we have, the better.