work is good; H is crazy

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Thank you Heather...it's so nice of you to say. I'm pretty lucky to have them too (although have two teenage boys 24/7 I sometimes want to throttle them )

Hi Job! It is so beautiful there and I did get a day to go to Cannes and a few hours here and there to go exploring in Monte Carlo. I'm not much of a gambler but did eat Crepe Suzette at the Hotel di Paris and took lots of photos of different things. I'm sure his boss was an a$$ (I mean he was a little but there's one in every office!) and it was too close to my BIL, too close to our house, I wanted him to have the job and he did it for me.....one of three million excuses. She's a real piece of work Job. Even said, in a text to S19, that one day she hoped he'd understand why his dad left his mom. When I heard that I was so angry. I wanted to slap a restraining order on her--I couldn't believe anyone would say that to a child (let alone his own aunt!) Actually, H, during our phone conversation, accused my family of poisoning the boys against him to which I calmly replied that "the only family member that is in contact with the boys about our relationship is SIL#2" to which he interrupted that she only was trying to get them to visit but they're always too busy. I'm guessing he's referring to the fact that a week before spring break S19 received a text asking if they wanted to go get together to which he mentioned he had to work and his school (as he's in college) had a different break from the regular system. She responded with a "well, you can always call us too you know.....unless you're not allowed to use the phone" He was so upset he messaged me the conversation to which I told him to thank his aunt for the invite and that he is permitted to use the phone. She replied that was good to know. I have told both boys they are not permitted to refriend their aunt (she's since asked again) on FB. I said if she messages you you need to reply with respect but that FB was off limits as this whole back and forth thing and spying is not happening anymore......I don't care if it gets me in trouble. My boys don't need that!

Hi Wonka......here she is! LOL Yes, I just had to block her off of my stuff....it was turning into craziness and I don't need to be speed on. Yes, him getting all flustered because I show no emotion, and then the second convo my lawyer and I are too emotional, him yelling I need to "stop saying it's the law" and a few other zingers shows that I'm hitting a nerve. At one point I told him he really needs to talk to his L about how this works as he seems to need to have some clarification to which he yelled "I don't talk to my L!" ummmmmmmm the things I wanted to say to that! You have a L but you're getting you're info off of the street?? I didn't say that but WOW

Thank you all for saying I sound stronger.....you know, I think I am. I'm getting to the realization he's never going to come home healthy and I certainly don't need him like this. I was talking to a friend the other day and said you know I now see that in the two years before BD I lived in a constant state of anxiety. Was scared to ask for help, or for chores to be done, or to go here or there, always waiting to see what he'd complain about or who he'd complain about. The 13th he'll be out of the house for a year and things have certainly not turned out as he wanted. We're close to a signed separation agreement but, yet so far. Also, one of the things he freaked out on was when he could come get his stuff (we have agreed to a division of property) to which I replied when I got back we would set up a time for him to come get it (he then again asked when to which I said when I get back we'll set up a time to get together when the boys aren't home.....I DON'T GIVE A F WHERE YOU'RE GOING OR WHO YOU'RE GOING WITH" LOL) anyway, guess who still has not contacted me about it since I've been back. I honestly don't know how standers do it with these people in their house.......their strength level must be through the roof!

Hope you're all well and that life is filled with blessings xoxox