When this all first happened, I recognized this was a problem. We actually bought bunk beds and I set them up. They are working on sleeping in them. Just a matter of consistency. They've been set up and working on it for about a month now. Own beds is happening 90 percent of the time now. My W has just rarely put them to bed, so they were very excited etc. Regression to old habits. My D is very upset the last few days.
They still are unsure about what is happening beyond the immediate. The uncertainty is not good for them. Just trying to keep a schedule so they know when they will see W
Continuing with my detaching and tough love. Waiting and watching. And moving on. Keep monitoring the results of what I'm doing. Definitely created more confusion for her when she was more welcome in the house, but it was total cake eating. Makes me sometimes feel like I should go back to that. But I think I need to continue with my journey as is. Is it normal to feel so torn? Hah, I hope so
