Although it's very common for couples to act out of spite in these situations I don't feel I'm doing that. I feel I'm doing what is right for my kids and for once not worrying about what my W may think about it.
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IMO, it is a very outdated view that kids don't do well if they have to split time between both parents. The idea that they would do better living primarily with one parent (in most cases the mother) is not valid except perhaps when the father (or mother) was not a fit parent. Kids need BOTH parents equally.
It doesn't take very much research to see the negative effect of kids growing up without their fathers in their lives. IMO, it is far better for kids to have both parents with them equally than it is for them to have one primary residence and effectively lose the other parent.
I'm not going to argue the pros and cons of 50/50 custody - there are plenty of both. I don't know what the situation was with your W before she left, or anything else about your children; I'm just saying that if you go in front of a judge and you stomp your foot and cross your arms and demand 50/50 custody, it may well come across as you trying to get "your share" . . . and that is not what is important here.
If I were you, I would, instead of relying on your own opinions, take an hour or two to go speak with a child Psychologist, CFI or PRE, to get some ideas about how you might best ensure time with your children, and a good relationship for them with BOTH parents, while making sure that you are putting the children's best interests first.
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