I thought I'd come back and explain the "life" transition a bit more. Each of us goes through a "growth" spurt, i.e., late teens/early 20's, again at 30, 40, etc. If the "life" transition isn't navigated properly, the person is destined to try again at a later time. If that doesn't happen, generally they are then set up to have a mid-life crisis.
It's very important that individuals are allowed to grow during this transition as it helps them navigate the next 10 or so years of their life and they learn, experience and grow from those experiences. Some go through them w/only a blip on the radar screen and others will go full force and do a lot of really crazy things and become someone else we don't know. Ultimately, if they navigate all of the properly, they are more mature adults at the end of the day.
Whatever you do, do not become his "mother" or his fixer. He really does need to face the consequences of his actions and grow up on his own.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
