One year in but a newbie

[Lifes Twists]

I am truly amazed at what my wife will say and what she thinks right now. I am hearing many of the same things others mention, just at a slower pace than I expected.

Last night I met with her to discuss finances concerning our daughters, college and such. A couple weeks ago she had suggested we live as roomates so we could share expenses, though she still wants to be able to to date other people. It was discussed last night again. I explained to her that I did not feel comfortable with that. I explained that I would be will to work on us and see where that went, but that i would not move in together as roomates. She immediately said I was not thinking about our girls and just about myself. She then said I was trying to force her into something she does not want. I responded that I was not doing any such thing but only telling her what I was willing to do. Even if its a set back, I felt I needed to state what I was comfortable with.

She has now started to point out things I am doing and stating that I should have done them years ago. She has commented on my weight loss and what weight she feels I would look good at.

Today she is off on a date to Boston. She has left my youngest home alone. She has said it bothers her to do this, yet she will go and do this. I plan on touching base with my youngest and see if we can do something together. I do sense that my daughters are resenting their mother dating and taking time away from them right now. I won't say anything and let it take its course.

I hope I am handling this correctly