Need help saving my family - part 10

[Scorp7]

Mel, my agreeing to move was based on trying to come to an agreement with my W without having to battle in court. I have always felt that the best place for my kids is where they had been living up until 6 months ago.

Although it's very common for couples to act out of spite in these situations I don't feel I'm doing that. I feel I'm doing what is right for my kids and for once not worrying about what my W may think about it.

IMO, it is a very outdated view that kids don't do well if they have to split time between both parents. The idea that they would do better living primarily with one parent (in most cases the mother) is not valid except perhaps when the father (or mother) was not a fit parent. Kids need BOTH parents equally.

It doesn't take very much research to see the negative effect of kids growing up without their fathers in their lives. IMO, it is far better for kids to have both parents with them equally than it is for them to have one primary residence and effectively lose the other parent.