Need help saving my family - part 10

[melissag]

Hi Scorp, I wanted to touch on a couple of things:

First, the idea that you were willing to move to W's hometown before, but since she isn't doing what you want, screw her, you're not going to now.

Make sure that you are looking out for you and your kids. Not trying to piss off your W, or acting or reacting to your W's words or behavior. You decide what you are willing to do, and you stick with it. Don't change it based on what your W does.

And, the idea that you must have 50/50 custody of the kids.

I feel very strongly that what your W did - taking the kids and moving four hours away - was WRONG. (That's an understatement.) I also think that kids need both parents in their lives. But when you are discussing custody, make sure you are focusing on the best interests of the kids (which may well be something other than 50/50 one way or the other), not on making sure you get your half of the pie.