What's TAM? I'm assuming MA is Marriage Advocates. I know that they're much more aggressive in their suggestions. But the basic DB principle is to "do what works". Think of it like a science experiment. You just stop continuing doing what gets a negative reaction. If you don't get the result you want, you change your plan.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.