You've come to the right place for support and encouragement as you walk through this journey. You're not alone in this journey.
Start by reading Cadet's homework.
Visiting and reading other people's threads here in the MLC forum will help drive traffic to your own thread.
Your H has to figure out his own chit and just let him be in walking his own journey. It's good to see that you're GALing which will help you in the detachment department tremendously.
For inspiration, you might want to read Raine's threads: Stuck On You