Sorry to find you here under those circumstances, but you will find tremendous support of like-mined community of folks who've experienced what you're going through now.
Read Cadet's homework assignments for starters.
For inspiration, ideas, and tips, you would want to check Forever Young and TSquared2's threads as they are living with a live-in female MLCer.
You're going be in this process for a looong time. Won't turn around in few weeks or few months. It will be months and months or years before your W comes out of the MLC fog.
First things first, you gotta protect your own finances. I'd start by separating your bank accounts so your W can't spend marital money wildly all over the place.
Keep posting here in your own thread and visit other threads here in the MLC forum to post in order to get traffic back to your thread.
