In a perfect world, all relationships would work and kids would never come from a broken home. Document everything. My h on average spends 4% of the time with the kids each week. That means I have them 96% of the time. He doesn't want any "responsibilities and obligations" and originally thougth that way as well. I think when he realized what 50/50 really meant, he totally backed down. The reality is that sometimes mom is the stable parent and sometimes dad is the stable parent. Sometimes both are stable. That's not always the case.
When I try to think the whole custody thing through, I often get stuck at thinking the best thing is for us to all be a family. I know that is the best thing. But, since my H doesn't see it that way (at least right now), I really am trying to figure out what is best for D7. My H does spend more time with D7 than your H (I feel for your kids on 4%). Some weeks it is only 15-20%. Others, it might be closer to 40. In the three months we've been S, he hasn't gone a single week without changing the schedule in some way.
Originally Posted By: Georgiabelle
And well, if he can't forgive you for doing what is best (whatever that may be), then what kind of R are you going to have anyway? Heck, people will probably 2x4 me.
The thing here is that he won't see me as doing what is best for D7. He will see me as interfering with his rights and trying to take her away from him. I don't think that is mind-reading. He has said basically that. I guess I can't concern myself with what he thinks about it, though.
