I was just wondering if it was right for me to in essence lie to the children.
It is NOT right for YOU to lie to the children. At the same token YOU DO NOT NEED to offer up things to them if they do not ask.
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To take on a partial burden of guilt that might not neccessarily be due me.
I would worry less about taking on “guilt” – on one level BOTH you and your W are guilty. It takes two to make an M and two to break it.
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Anyone know the particulars of legal separation versus divorce?
Depends on the state that you live in. In my state (CT), a legal separation means that you determine things like parenting plans, finances, etc. but that you in still married on some level. Usually people do this for tax or health benefit reasons, which it sounds like the reason she did the legal separation.
I think the question YOU need to ask yourself is ….IS the legal separation what YOU want?
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