You do realize that texting is considered contact, right?

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I feel like I know the textbook of a WAW front and back!


No, I don't think you do. You know absolutely nothing about a WAW......or else you are the most self-defeating person I've read about.

Listen, if you really knew about a WAW, you would know all this begging & pleading, and showing her how needy you are....is the last thing on earth you should be doing! It turns her off more than you can imagine. You are pushing her away as fast as you can.

I have seen you talk about making changes, but you've not specified what those are. What exactly are your 180's? What are your personal goals you are working toward? Do you have a plan of action in place? B/c this is what you need to focus on....instead of all your questions over why your W can't give you another chance.

You really have not told us much about yourself, it has all been you venting over your W and asking why has she done this. Which, it's fine to vent, but you have to realize you aren't getting anywhere the way you are approaching it. You cannot do one blessed thing to control what she does. She said you can't change her mind......so why do you keep trying to talk her into changing it? Talk does not work on a WAW.

Leave her alone. Stop texting her. Stop with the pleading. Stand tall and show some confidence. I know you are devastated, but don't act like a whipped pup. That is the beginning of what to do. Will you be able to stop the D in time? Maybe not, due to the speed she is pushing it, but you can't force someone to love you. Plain and simple. And why do you want someone who doesn't want to be with you?

If the D goes through and later, if you still want her,....and she starts seeing the man she fell in love with.....you may get together again. You wouldn't be the first couple to get remarried.

Did you complete reading Divorce Remedy?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!