So last night when I got home, she was trying to get the kids to sleep. Her night at the house. However, First time in ages that she was trying to put the kids to sleep. My D had been upset earlier, and it appears that they were all having a rough time.
I wrestled with stepping in, and then decided I should not rescue her. However after an hour, she got frustrated. I did offer to help, and she stormed out saying nothing had changed in the house , she still couldn't put the kids to sleep etc. I tried to validate her, but at the same time I was thinking what the heck do you expect, you rarely put them to sleep anymore!
She stormed out, frustrated, and left to her place. I know I'm not supposed to rescue her , and she is not my friend right now . But when the kids are involved it's tough. Part of me wanted to get the kids to sleep because I had stuff to do that night. Dismissing her makes her feel ineffective as a mother, which is one of the things she struggles with right now. In fact, I've realized she needs to do much of her own work to improve herself . That's out of my control.
Still working on accepting that. It's a daily struggle
