living with WAW who hasn't walked yet (2)

[dingo]

I think you need to decide whats best for you and your children and do it regardless of what her response is. If you've been paying for all of the household expenses up til now, then you can continue to do that. Ask her to contribute what you think is fair and document everything as appropriate (if she contributes less, etc.). Unfortunately, you can't make her do anything with her money so the best you can do is keep good records and hope that the courts agree with you should it come to that.

If she stomps and throws a fit and refuses to participate, then that tells you something about where her priorities are (hint: not with the family and the children). Maybe that will help you decide if your plan for the future is compatible with hers.

As another anecdote - in the last few months since my wife moved out, she has gone from zero CC debt to somewhere around $3k. She has a tenant in her condo that is refusing to pay her rent until significant repairs that she promised last summer get made. She has a $2k tax liability and has managed to spend the entirety of her half of the 6 month emergency fund we had saved. She's quickly seeing a dose of reality...