Nit84 imho if I was in your shoes and I am in my own shoes I will do something for me....you recognize that you might have some signs of codependency...why dont you start taking care of yourself and go to meetings? Read the book or go to alanon meetings? Best thing sometimes its to surrender and recognize we cant do some things without help... I am sure it will help you see things in a different way...... My W left me and its hard and sad, I cant make her come back but I can choose a different therapist, I can exercise, I can go to alanon meetings and all that one day will help me change things I dont like from me...in my next relationship with her or somebody else I will always be able to say...this time I did my homework so at least the issues I had they are not there anymore...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
