IMO, the kids are gonna feel this. There is no way around it. That does not mean that they will not thrive later on in life.
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do I make it clear that I am not in agreement?
First off, what is the purpose of telling them you are not in agreement? If it is that you are trying to make her feel bad, is it being done as a manipulative tactic?
IMO, IF they ask (not by you prodding them to ask), then I think you need to be honest with them. Tell them that it is not what ou want but you will respect her choices. That should be followed up with a LOT of….it is not their fault, that you guys are still a family, that YOU love them (I would not say “we”, that would be speaking for your W) and that YOU will always be there for them.
I have not read your entire sitch…but if you have reached a parenting plan, then you want to let them know what that will look like.
Be strong. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
