My H is adamant that he wants 50/50 custody. He has said that if I don't give him 50/50, he will fight me for it. He knows that the firm my sister works for is one of the best firms to use for contested D cases in our area, so I can only imagine that he would borrow money from his dad. The thing is, in reality, he doesn't have our D7 anywhere close to 50 percent of the time. I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt at first, but I am beginning to think that he wants 50/50 in order to avoid paying child support. At the beginning of all this, he specifically told me he couldn't afford it. The truth is, he can't afford it and afford to keep the lifestyle he is accustomed to living.
All that said, I have been thinking of filing myself if he tells me again that he wants a D and asking the court to grant me primary custody with a standard visitation order for him. If he isn't actually going to have her half the time, I think my D7 will be better off knowing where she's going to be each day. This is hard for her. If I do this, I probably destroy all chances of R. My H will not forgive it. Any thoughts, 2x4s, etc., are welcome.
Speaking of D7, this morning, she was standing in my bedroom staring at a picture from our wedding. When I reminded her that it was time to get ready for school, she said she just needed to look at the picture for a little longer. Just yesterday, I was contemplating taking that picture down because it was too painful a reminder for me, but maybe that isn't a good idea right now.
I'm feeling pretty stuck. I want desperately to save my M, but I am feeling hopeless about it right now. If it isn't possible, I still have to protect my D.
