Today is D day, the hearing was an hour ago so I assume he went and finalized it. I was not required to go since it was uncontested. Just one more hurdle to get over, although it is just a piece of paper and this changes nothing in my mind. I knew it was coming so I'm not feeling worse or anything. exH will come over at lunch time - meeting him at the house because he offered to take the cat to the vet to have her put down. He saw her last Sunday after I mentioned she was failing and called out of the blue Monday to offer. I thought that was kind but wondered in the back of my head if there was some ulterior motive. I accepted the offer anyway because taking another pet to be put down especially on d day is not on my list of fun things to do. I dealt with the last 2 pets on my own so I will gladly let him take her. Not to mention that I was left with all the expenses that go along with pets and at least this is one thing he will pay for. Hopefully that goes well. Of course it won't surprise me if he tells them just send the bill to my house lol. I'll deal with that when the time comes. Going out with the girls tonight and my dad is coming Saturday to visit. I went to divorce group again Wednesday which is really really helping me. I can see more clearly now my role in this - not the MLC mind you, I know that's HIM but I can see things were not perfect and my role in the divorce. It's funny to read one chapter in this book on rebuilding after divorce, it describes MLC but labels it as being in the "rebel" stage. It is so much more complicated than that. I was able to make it through the whole meeting without crying or feeling bad. It was sort of uplifting.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
