Thanks for the input. I think I am going to stand my ground on this and just let my ex know that when I have custody, she will need to let me know what is going on and ask my permission before making any plans with the kids.
I am also going to tell her that if she involves the children in the planning before talking to me, then the answer will automatically be No. She needs to talk to me first.
I realize the word "Permission" rubs people the wrong way, but when I have custody, I have authority. I am not giving permission to my exW, I am giving permission to my D. My exW can do anything she wants. My D need my permission because I am the parent in authority.
