Wife moved out to be with her Tour Guide Lover

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I know I have to explain my marriage but here is a dynamic that keeps on occurring. Once you read it it might help you understand my situation more.

But here is my other issue. she talks to S15, knowing that he tells Dad EVERYTHING!
For example, I was driving him to school this morning for some before school stuff he had to do.

He tells me that he asked her why when she and POS come back from New Mexico, does she have to drive all the way 60 miles back here just to bring him back the next day for an 11:00 PM plane (that I hope slams into a wall)

She says, "Well because he will be leaving and I wont see him again for 6 weeks. He says he will miss me.

So he says Mom, hes 53 years old, so she thinks for a few minutes and says:
well maybe I want to see him.

I say boy they are both so controlling.

S15 Says Dad why do you say its control, maybe they just are going to miss each other. Mom told me she cares deeply for you but she does not love you anymore. Boy it was like a knife in the heart hearing it from him.


So I have not texted or called WAW since she called me on Tuesday. She did send me an email with some instructions on what to do for my sn while shes away.

You see, I realize what the real issue is, its BOTH OUR FAULTS, we never had our kids do enough for themselves. So when she says she wants no responsibilities she means that my S15 has to do more for himself.

I think what hurt our marriage is we never ever had any down time, and now all shes been doing is Working, meeting his friends, living in a hotel, traveling etc, its what she felt she deserves.

She also told my S15, that if she ends up back for an in home separation and we can't get a long , by the 2nd month shes going to leave, divorce me and that's it. Meanwhile she was begging me before she saw the Coach to allow her to stay here for 2 more years. I am giving up trying to figure her out.

She also told S15 that Dad (ME) is going to try and win me back, but he has to realize I am in Love with my Charlatan and its not going to work...What she does not realize is I have no more fight left, I am going to let things fall into place with the advice and help I get here.

I want to clean up our financial mess, and give her the space and freedom she needs.

Look everyone I care for her, but she has tortured me for years. Made me not comfortable in my own home, and now flaunted this sicko relationship of hers in front of me. With all your help I am starting to grow as a man and a human being and I don't know if I need Poison back in my life or if I make her happy she will detoxify.