Yep, he's gone back in time to Never Land. Quite frankly, he doesn't care whether his job is in jeopardy or not. His priority was starting his tattoo and that was all he cared about. Their motto, no sweat, no problem, no responsibilities.
Call the credit card companies and request that your limit be lowered. Just keep in mind, he can turn around and call them and have it raised.
When I was going through this w/my xh, I called and spoke to a rep at credit company and she advised me that as long as there was a balance, I could not remove my name from the joint account, but if I could protect myself in another way, i.e., I could call back and state that I've either lost or misplaced my card and request that the account be moved over to a new one as soon as possible. What that does is close out the original account and a new one set up and then new cards are issued. You would get them in the mail and not give him one of the cards. I did this for two of the joint cards and I was very glad I did it. My xh had started to spend like crazy and wasn't living in the home w/me and wasn't giving me money to pay his charges.
I'm very sorry you are having to go through this. MLC is not a sprint, but a very long and painful marathon. It's not for the faint of heart, so buckle up and get ready for the ride of your life. You will see and hear things that you would never have imagined come from your h's mouth.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
