Hello, I've not posted here for a while, I'm more active on a different MLC site. But the latest is we are still not divorced yet.
Was in court February for the First Direction Appointment (FDR). The purpose of this hearing is to decide what more information both parties, and the court needs, before negotiations start properly . Agreed were the points to be negotiated over.
• House value for negotiation purposes • House disposition (buy out STBXW at certain value or sell) • Pension order (STBXW has staked her claim on my pension) • Custody arrangement (I have made application for 50:50 sharing)
The whole thing has cost me £££ and we are not really any further forward but I'm trying not to let it get me down.
STBXW and her solicitors seem to think I have a secret stash of money. (Yeah right).
STBXW has these few small savings accounts “which she didn’t think she needed to declare” we have asked for details of those. Also we need to know where the missing £2K form an account she did declare .
Custody and what percentages of the house sale to go to STBXW are very much down to D12. If she wants to live with STBXW then she gets a bigger cut of the money, If D wants to live 50:50 then thats how the money will be split, god forbid if she says she wants to live with me, I think STBXW would have heart failure (if she has one).
On my pension the total value is actually £200k however £70k was accrued before I met STBXW so we will argue she is entitled to a max of 50% of £130k.
Other than that we’re back in court April 27th day to discuss details unless thing can be agreed before then.
In the meantime we still live in the same house under a tense atmosphere but I mostly stay out of here way and she continues to go out with her "Friend" at the weekend but now spends the whole night instead of slinking back in the wee hours. She won't move out and I can't force her out.
Anyway thanks to all that take an interest and show concern.
