Meeting for "THE TALK" tonight

[mleigh4]

Back from talking. It was actually pretty productive. H still says he is confused about what to do and is too scared to say He want a divorce. He is leaning towards D but not able to say it. H agrees keeping me in limbo is very unfair but doesn't know what to do. SIGH. So, we agreed maybe a dose of reality might help, so agreed to begin mediation process with no commitment to file. At this point, I am fine with that. He also said he might go talk to someone, therapy, but said he is scared that they will convince him that D is the answer because he hears from friends that is what happens. I told him either way, therapy can be very helpful, that it has helped me tremendously.

About moving home, he doesn't think we are ready to jump into cohabiting, I agree. He worries if me and my S move back, and he moves out, that my S will think it is because of him. Also a worry for me. I told him I need to think more about that before making a decision.

H says he has been happier since I left. I told him, lets see, you have had the comfort of home, having all your stuff and toys, and less marital and parental responsibilities - who wouldn't be!!?? I told him another good dose of reality would be for him to go out on his own, and that I still leaning towards going home, but I will think about it.