my wife left, but still lives with me #3/continued

[tough spot]

So she told me tonight she is going to sign papers tomorrow for a legal separation. We had discussed separation at one point as I thought it had better tax advantages than a divorce. I listened, said 'ok. I am against it but if it what you want or need then lets proceed'.

I thought we should at least wait a day or so in order to consult with a tax man to see if I was correct or not. She said she would file anyway tomorrow and if needed we could convert to a divorce with one sheet of paper.

We talked about custody again, no real changes there. I did say, which was a mistake, maybe not, that I would consult with a tax man over the next few days and examine if this was the best option for me.

I threw that out there because for some reason leagal separation doesn't induce the same sense of fear that a D does. It is still over either way, or at least both require acceptance that that is her decision and i have no control. But where/why/how did this little sense of relief come from. I will have to examine and make sure I am not reading anything into that that will potentially cause me more pain down the road.

She said to that 'aren't you the one who brought that option up'....I said 'yes'. She seemed a bit pissy about that statement.