Oxford, you are looking for others to chime in on your thread; well here is my two cents... Read and study DR, work on yourself, and reread what Mr. Bond has wrote to you. He has gave you some great advice.

You cannot change or fix her or trick her into loving you. It is not a contest with the OM. The only thing you can do is work on yourself.

M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15