Thank you for your response. I have consulted with a couple of lawyers, so I have some knowledge of my rights. Based on the advise I was given, I think my plan is this:
If he says he is done and wants a D, then we can proceed with mediation which is basically setting up the marital separation agreeement that is used upon divorce, but that does not become effective until D is actually filed. The mediation does not mean you are filing, it just sets up things to do D. They also push for reconciliation.
If he says he is still confused and asks for more time to have his space, I am willing to give him that, and sign another lease for the apartment, as long as he agrees to not use this time to date and will continue to pay some support money. I am paycheck to paycheck in this apartment, it costs more than it would for me to live at home. Now, I know I can put these requests out there, and he can still lie through his teeth and do as he pleases. I do know that. That fear of him totally bailing on me, of bringing someone else into our family home, of lying and lying, it is what makes me sick to my stomach and unable to sleep.
OR - I could follow your advise, see what he has to say, and stew on it. My S and I are leaving town for Lake Tahoe on Sunday, which would be some great time for me to think. I still don't want a D, that hasn't changed, but at the same time, if he is checked out of this M, I don't know what there is to hold on to?
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
